I love coming across a quote from a movie or book that has
serious meaning. Last night as I was watching a movie, I came across this one.
“Sometimes, you have to learn to love what is good for you.”
Love is such a misunderstood concept according to today’s
Society. We love McDonald’s. We love being skinny. We love whitened teeth. We
love fast, expensive cars. We love being materialistic. We love whatever the
The reality of this “love” is a completely different matter.
McDonalds’ food is full of fat, carbs and salt which counteract our “love” of
being skinny because we also love being couch potatoes. Being a couch potato
leads to an increasing desire to NOT want to go out to use our expensive car.
You begin to see the evil spiral that this “love” creates.
(I’ll leave my personal ramble about Love vs. Lust for
another day. That will be a doozey!)
Just how do you love what is good for you? First, you have
to determine what is good for you. Keep in mind that what is good for one
person may not work for you. We are not made the same nor have the same needs.
I might need routine and stability in my life but you might need creative
expression and music. There is no set answer here, no miracle cure, no band aid.
If there’s no easy answer, how do you do this? The answer is
easy and difficult at the same time.
You see, we all have those skeletons in the closet, the
things or situations that we’ve pushed into the furthest recesses of our mind
so that we can avoid dealing with them. We shut that closet door for a reason.
If we never clean out that closet, the skeletons start to pile up. What happens when there are so many that you can no longer shut the door?
The fallout can be emotionally overwhelming. This is where you have to start. You
need to confront each one, determine how it has affected you and most
importantly, what you have learned from it. Now, this is where it starts to get uncomfortable.
Start with one skeleton at a time. Look at it, talk to it,
and listen to what it has to say. Does it say things to you like “You’re
stupid. Who could ever love you?” At this point, you have three choices in
deciding how to react to its words. The first is to stuff it back into the
closet. Out of sight is out of mind, but in this case, it’s still there waiting
to be dealt with and nothing has been gained. The second is to accept its
statement and reply “You’re right. No one will ever love me.” Those words will
become your truth which you will start to believe about yourself. The third is
a different reply such as “Whatever, I love myself AND there are others out
there who love me as well.” Now which of those three choices is the most
productive, covering up the problem, giving the problem power over you or
standing up to it?
If you chose the third reply, you’re on the right path! Now,
dig a bit deeper. What or who put those words in your closet?Figure that out and you are a step
closer. Regardless of your reply to the last question, you have now started to get
to the root of that particular problem or skeleton. Once you have that root in
sight, it’s time to make a change. Remove the root. Are you able to
disassociate yourself from that negative person or situation? Take control. If you no longer allow that negativity in your
life, your inner dialogue will begin to change. Instead of thinking “No one
will ever love me.”, you begin to believe “I’m an awesome person. I love me!”
Once you begin to eliminate the negative that has been controlling you, you
begin to love the positive which is what is good for you.
Please keep in mind that this is a process. Attempting to clean out that closet in short order could be emotionally painful and not
something I would advise. Simply take on one skeleton at a time until the
closet is empty. To learn to love what is good for you, you must confront the
bad. When you confront the bad, you see the potential for all that is good in
you and your life.
Wow, this ramble wasn’t easy to write. I’ve been cleaning my
own closet out bit by bit for several years now. The healing that has come from
it has made dramatic changes in me and how I view my life. It is my sincerest
wish that someday, more people will be able to do the same.
I've survived the Holiday Crazies! I even managed to bypass the various forms of Icky Sick that was being shared among my students during final exams. I so happy to be spending a holiday healthy for a change. :)
So I'm back to share some of my latest creations. I did a stocking swap with one of my Craftster friends. She's purse fanatic which means I had to indulge her. She also likes pink. Excuse me, she LOVES pink! I had my 6 yr old daughter help choose her fabrics for her goodies which worked wonderfully. My swap partner loves her new purse. She said that her IPad fits perfectly inside.
The little snap coin purse is made from an extra bit of extra lining fabric that I had after I finished her bat. I also included one of my circular ear bud carriers with her purse goodies.
I'm going to branch out and try some new styles of simple purses in 2013. I can't wait!
Today started with birthday pancakes! I started making these back in the day when I was a single mom, just me and my Moose boy. Now, they have become an important part of the birthday celebrations. All I do is make simple pancakes a la Bisquick, add chocolate chips to the batter and then draw the birthday number on top of the last pancake. My kids think I am super mom for this simple breakfast.
My son has turned 12. I am now going to have a "Man, I'm getting old." pity party. *sigh*